Leadership on the Line: The Heart of Danger, The Faces of Danger

leadership on the line book cover

This is the first of a two-part post on this book.

Do you consider yourself a leader? If you’re intent on creating change, you already are!

One of the most useful books I’ve read that has helped my work is Leadership on the Line: Staying Alive Through The Dangers of Leading by Martin Linsky and Ronald A. Heifetz of the John F Kennedy School of Government, Harvard University. It was recommended to me by a colleague who had participated in the Governor’s Leadership Foundation.

What makes this book worth a spot on the change agent’s bookshelf is best summed up in a review by President Emeritus of Harvard University, Derek C. Bok:

This is not a conventional book about how to inspire and lead a large organization. It is a much more ambitious work that describes the personal challenges and tactical problems that arise in trying to exert a constructive influence in all kinds of organizational settings.

Leaders are typically engaged in adaptive rather than technical challenges – technical challenges are where there are known solutions and processes, and where people’s routines and behaviours need to change. But adaptive challenge is where there are no ‘known’ ways to resolve complex issues, and when change in hearts and minds is needed. The authors caution leaders about being pressured into treating adaptive challenges as technical.

Leadership on the Line provides insights into why change-work and leadership creates challenging professional and personal situations in ‘The Heart of Danger’, and the varying ways in which the forces of resistance will attempt to neutralise efforts for change in ‘The Face of Danger’. It then sets out five challenges for adaptive leadership, and also approaches and techniques for self-care.

The Heart of Danger

When we are seeking to create change, we are often in the position where we must tell people what they need to hear rather than what they want to hear. When we are pushing people to question long-held values, beliefs or habits, this makes us appear dangerous to people.

How do people typically respond to danger? Fight or flight. Possibly more familiar to leaders in this day and age as resist or avoid!

People do not fight change per se – they want to avoid perceived loss. We expect our leaders to be the heroes and have ready answers, rather than raising questions that go to the heart of how we think and behave. We expect our leaders to protect us from the pains of change.

Yet as Linsky and Heifetz point out, the chances of successful change depends on people internalising the change, not being sheltered from it or having it resolved for them.

The dangers of exercising leadership derive from the nature of the problems for which leadership is necessary. Adaptive change stimulates resistance because it challenges people’s habits, beliefs, and values. It asks them to take a loss, experience uncertainty, and even express disloyalty to people and cultures. Because adaptive change forces people to question and perhaps redefine aspects of their identity, it also challenges their sense of competence. Loss, disloyalty, and feeling incompetent: That’s a lot to ask. No wonder people resist.

Effective leadership lies in the capacity to deliver disturbing news and raise difficult questions in a way – and at a rate – that people can absorb, prodding them to take up the message rather than ignoring it, or killing the messenger.

The Face of Danger 

man in suit holding a black face mask over his face, having just taken off a similar white face mask

There are many different manifestations of danger that may present themselves to the change agent. The objective of these manifestations, which appear in a range of guises, is to neutralise those who are exercising leadership in order to preserve the status quo.

According to Linsky and Heifetz, the ‘masks’ danger can present itself in are:

  • Marginalisation

Leaders should endeavour to orchestrate conflict – that is, managing the range of different interests – rather than embodying it. The authors warn that becoming the embodiment of an issue under your authority is dangerous, as it ties not only a leader’s success, but very survival, to that issue.

  • Diversion

Been promoted unexpectedly? Had some enjoyable or important tasks handed to you? Finding yourself lost in others’ demands? Take pause and consider whether this is a tactic to divert you from addressing an uncomfortable issue.

  • Attack

An attack on the person with the message wastes the currency of leadership – attention. Linsky and Heifetz note that no one criticises when you have good news or rewards, they do so when they don’t like the message:

The spectacle of attack…creates a drama and moves people away from underlying issues…By personally responding to attackers, leaders are colluding with the attacker in distracting the public from the real target.

Hence it is critical for change agents to be aware of ego states, and know how to handle personal attacks.

  • Seduce

This mask is about losing your sense of purpose, and happens when your guard is down, when defence mechanisms are lowered by the nature of the approach. It can emerge from those opposing you, or from within your own supporter base – for example, are you finding you are keeping those close happy at the expense of a broader group?

These masks are intended to neuter the disturbance created by change leaders, maintain what is familiar, and protect people from the pain of change.

Leadership requires the ability to recognise the manifestations of danger, and also the skills to respond effectively to them.

In part two of this post next week, we’ll examine Linsky and Heifetz’s responses to leadership challenges.

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Changemaker Profile – Dana Pearlman

This is the fourth in a series of Changemaker Profiles, which introduces the work of changemakers I know and admire, and offers insights into their approaches to communication and change work.

Dana Pearlman is co-founder of the Global Leadership Lab, bringing together systemic change-makers to transform our world towards a thriving ecosystem through leadership, community and project/venture acceleration. She is co-author and publisher of The Lotus: A Practice Guide for Authentic Leadership Towards Sustainability. Please see Dana’s longer bio at the end of this post.

headshot of dana pearlman

1. Tell us about the work you are involved with:

In modern society, we have become fragmented and disconnected from many aspects of our true selves, disconnected from one another and from our deep human need for community and from our planet. My work is about reconnecting people to their true selves, to their values, to one another and to our greater global community.

I host conversations that matter and design and deliver learning experiences that enable transformation at the individual and collective levels.  My work aims to support capacity building in change-makers to help them become more effective in their work through collaborative and authentic leadership development as well as venture acceleration that aims to change the world for the better.

Oftentimes, world-changing ventures do not get the support they need to make an impact. We are building an ecosystem of systemic change-makers to support these ventures and giving them the attention they need to thrive.

2. What motivated you to be doing this work?

A number of years ago I went through a period of great discontent. I was no longer satisfied with my career and life path. I felt called to do something much more meaningful and I needed to be part of the healing of our planet.

I ended up attending an amazing graduate program in Sweden, and obtained a masters degree in strategic leadership towards sustainability. I actually ignored the fact that the word leadership was in the title, and while attending the program realized the huge global deficit in the kind of leadership that is needed in our world is also at the root of our current modern day challenges.

The success of an intervention depends on the interior condition of the intervenor.

Bill O’Brien (from the book Theory U by Otto Scharmer)

During the Swedish program my colleagues and I had a webinar with Otto Scharmer and he shared this quote. This sent a few of us into an exploration of what is the ideal interior state of the intervener?

We began speaking to a myriad of leaders working in transformational spaces and encountered a massive leverage point for change: Leaders that are authentic, and use their personal learning experiences enable vulnerability in those around them, it is these encounters that enable change. This simple yet profound realization is game changing. If you create spaces of meaning and vulnerability, healing will take place.

During this exploration we also synthesized 9 capacities authentic leaders find essential in their work (these include: being present, compassion, personal power, suspension and letting go, intention aligned with higher purpose, whole self awareness, whole system awareness, having a sense of humor and holding paradoxes, ambiguities and multiple world views).

Further, we explored the practices that enable the development of these capacities, such as yoga, meditation, dialogue, peer learning. aikido and many other practices. There is a freely downloadable guidebook here.

3. What is the most rewarding aspect of your work?

It is all rewarding. Even the struggles. The human experience is a complex, juicy and relentless journey and in my work I am constantly being invited to deepen my own self-awareness in order to hold space for others to do likewise. I am reminded daily of the profound beauty that exists when I am able to be present with another human being and that when I really take the time to listen to another person there is an entire new universe to understand and connect to.

The work I get to participate in in our world vastly surpasses what I could have ever hoped for.

4. What do you feel is your biggest communication challenge?

I work in human complexity. When one thing is out of alignment (in ourselves or in our relationships) it blocks movement and transformation is stunted. At any given moment, a plethora of human dynamics are at play between our relationships to ourselves, and with one another.

I am constantly building capacity in myself to recognize these blocks and to address them compassionately and fearlessly. On some days better than others!

The key is to express yourself and be with those that invite this!

5. How do you handle a situation when you find yourself in conflict with someone about your work or ideas?

The pattern is typically to react. However, the goal is to navigate these moments with grace and a heightened sense of awareness. The practice is to notice the arising reaction and to take a breath. Recognize what is happening in the present moment and really focus in on hearing their perspective, or taking some space until I am able to really hear them.

In this work, it is not about agreeing with one another, it is about the willingness to listen to another human being for the simple fact that they are a human being and deserve to be heard and recognized. That is where real transformation occurs, when we can deeply care enough to listen. That is where social trust unfolds and begins to heal ourselves and our planet. It is in these small gestures of caring for another that healing occurs.

6. What’s your best piece of advice for change-makers and activists?

Rule number 6. Don’t take yourself, others and the world so f%#$ing seriously. When we were researching authentic leaders, the capacity that was essential for this kind of work was having a sense of humor. Without lightheartedness we will forget to enjoy the journey of deeply caring for our planet. Remember to take time for yourself, to reflect and remember why you are doing this work and to source your work from your deepest values and cares.

Oh, and if you don’t already have your tribe, find them! We need to be around each other doing this work!

Dana Pearlman designs and facilitates action learning experiences. Her academic background is in clinical psychology and strategic leadership towards sustainability. She uses participatory facilitation processes, frameworks and powerful questions to enable deeper wisdom at the individual, team, community and collective levels. Her sweet spot is at the intersection of authentic leadership, tapping into other ways of knowing (beyond cognition) the world, collective healing and community building in order to accelerate the profound transformation that is needed in our world. She co-authored and published: The Lotus: A practice guide for Authentic Leadership towards Sustainability. Dana is also co-creating a start up, the Global Leadership Lab, that is bringing together systemic change-makers to transform our world towards a thriving ecosystem through leadership, community and project/venture acceleration, working with ventures that will impact 1 billion people or more. 

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Changemaker Profile – Ben Dyson, Founder of Positive Money

headshot of Ben Dyson

This is the third in a series of Changemaker Profiles, which introduces the work of changemakers I know and admire, and offers insights into their approaches to communication and change work.

Ben Dyson is the founder of Positive Money, a not-for-profit research and campaign group working to raise awareness of the connections between our current monetary and banking system and some of our biggest social, economic and environmental challenges.

1. Tell us about the work you are involved with:

My organisation is working to get people to understand how the monetary system currently works and the effect it has on some of the main social and economic issues that we’re facing today.

We focus on raising awareness of the fact that, at the moment, around 97% of all the money that exists is created by banks when they make loans, meaning that it is banks that determine a) how much money there is in the economy, and b) how that money is used.

As well as giving banks the power to shape the economy and making it impossible for us to let them fail, it also has knock-on impacts on issues like indebtedness, inequality, economic instability and the environmental crisis.

2. What motivated you to be doing this work?

By accident, in 2006, I stumbled across a book which talked about these issues. It seemed obvious that the system was structured in such a way that sooner or later it would collapse. In 2007, the collapse started.

Over the first two years of the financial crisis I became more and more frustrated that journalists and politicians seemed to be clueless of the root cause of the financial crisis – the fact that banks had created enough money in 8 years to double the amount of money in the economy, and put most of this money into house price bubbles. The talk was all about the fact that people had borrowed too much and needed to live within their means, but no one was asking questions such as “Where did all this money come from?”

In 2009 I started blogging about this issue on a personal blog, and in 2010 I decided that to have any real impact we’d need to build an organisation. We launched Positive Money in mid 2010.

3. What is the most rewarding aspect of your work?

One of the most rewarding aspects is to know that our analysis of the problems with the monetary system can be the missing piece of the puzzle for many social and economic issues that have seemed impossible to solve until now. We often have people telling us that they can finally start to make sense of everything that is going on in the economy and society at the moment, because they understand how finance and money is driving a lot of these problems. Once we understand how money is affecting these issues, it becomes easier to start to find solutions to some of these problems.

It’s also rewarding to see the ideas start to spread further. The chairman of the FSA recently gave a speech making some of the same points that we’ve been arguing, mostly as a lone voice, for the last two and a half years.

4. What do you feel is your biggest communication challenge?

Money and economics can be a very dry subject that seems quite far removed from people’s daily experience.

Our biggest challenge has always been to take out the jargon, make it simple and accessible, and make it relevant to people. I think we’ve managed to make the issue accessible (our videos for example are designed for people with no background in economics, although some of our books and papers are much more ‘in the deep end’, necessarily). But the challenge we’re working on most at the moment is to make it clearer how this is relevant to people’s lives. You might not care directly that money creation by banks can distort prices in the economy until it’s explained that this means you’ll give up an extra 5 years’ income simply to pay for the place where you live.

There are also a lot of knee-jerk reactions to the kind of ideas that we’re talking about. The first is the natural disbelief and the argument that “banks don’t create money”, although this one is easier to deal with now that more and more senior figures are open about the way this system works.

But then amongst those who know a little bit about economics or finance, there are a load more knee-jerk reactions that we have to contend with. The monetary system isn’t simple and it’s easy to very quickly get caught up in technical debates whilst missing the bigger issue of the effect the current system actually has. It’s always a challenge to keep people focussed on the realities of the impact the current system is having, rather than getting stuck in a technical debate about the mechanics of the banking system.

5. How do you handle a situation when you find yourself in conflict with someone about your work or ideas?

I find the best approach is usually to start by trying to see their perspective, rather than getting defensive immediately. Sometimes they do have a point, and we have changed our approach, proposals and messaging in the past to take that into account. The campaign is a lot more effective for taking that feedback on board.

If someone objects to our ideas our first reaction is to make sure they understand them fully. I don’t mind people objecting to something once they’ve read and understood it, and we regularly have fascinating and friendly discussions with people who fundamentally disagree with us. But I find it difficult to have much patience for people who misrepresent or mis-read what we’re suggesting and then start critiquing their own misinterpretation of the ideas. This often happens with other campaigners, politicians or journalists, who manage to form an opinion in a couple of minutes and ignore the fact that we’ve spent 3 years researching this system and looking at the impact it has. In this situation we normally try to meet them in person and find out whether the disagreement is based on misunderstandings, or whether it’s something more fundamental. Quite often these people didn’t fully appreciate the depth of the consequences of the current system.

But we have never expected to be able to get everyone on side with our analysis or proposals, and we don’t try to. The reality is that no major change has been made through complete consensus, so as Churchill suggested, if you haven’t made a few enemies yet you’re probably not making enough of an impact. But we do try to make sure we’re explaining the ideas in the clearest possible way and try to avoid causing confusion.

6. What’s your best piece of advice for change-makers and activists?

1) Spend a lot of time thinking about what will actually make the difference. A lot of campaigners spend a lot of energy doing busy work, when actually only a small amount of that work is effective. We fall into the same trap from time to time and have to keep re-evaluating our projects to make sure we’re always working on the thing that would make the biggest difference. The 80/20 rule applies here.

2) I’m not at all religious but there’s an element of faith in trying to do something this big (as with most campaigns that aim to change something on a huge scale). You do need to plan and figure out a strategy that could be successful, but a lot of the lucky breaks and contacts we’ve made could never have been planned for. A lot of it has just unfolded as we’ve gone on. So you have to some faith that once you start with something like this, even though it won’t be entirely clear how you can get to your end goal, the path will reveal itself bit by bit.

You can read more about the work of Ben and the Positive Money team’s work on their site, or in the book ‘Modernising Money’:

modernising money book cover

Modernising Money: Why Our Monetary System is Broken & How it Can Be Fixed

The product of three years of research and development, these proposals offer one of the few hopes of escaping from our current dysfunctional monetary system. Modernising Money shows how a law first implemented in the UK in 1844 (but never updated) can be combined with reform proposals that grew out of the Great Depression of the 1930s to provide the UK with a stable monetary and banking system, low personal and government debt and a thriving economy.

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Growing Change

This post is dedicated to the memory of Andrew ‘Wilf’ Wilford, a changemaker, a mentor to many, and my friend who died on 13 August 2012.

In the last week I’ve discovered two of the most inspiring changemakers I’ve ever encountered.

Both are leading grassroots change from their respective (and very different) communities – one in the UK, one in the US – and both are doing this through growing food.

Both are bringing into play their own unique styles of comedy and wit in their delivery – note the amount of laughter throughout both of these presentations.

So who are these people? What are they doing in their communities, and what makes them effective change agents?

In under half an hour, you too can learn about their initiatives, feel inspired, and consider how their approaches and techniques could be used in your own work.

Let me introduce you to Pam Warhurst and Steven Ritz.

Incredible Edibles: How We Can Eat Our Landscapes

Pam Warhurst is a co-founder of Incredible Edible, a community-initiated movement in Todmorden in northern England which grows and campaigns for local food.

mary clear (left) and pam warhurst, co-founders of Incredible Edibles

Image credit: Daily Mail UK (Pam at right, with co-founder Mary Clear)

Incredible Edible emerged when its creators were thinking about the most effective way to get people involved in having some agency over their own lives, right where they live:

We tried to answer this simple question: Can you find a unifying language that cuts across age and income and culture that will help people themselves find a new way of living, see spaces around them differently, think about the resources they use differently, interact differently? Can we find that language? And then, can we replicate those actions? And the answer would appear to be yes, and the language would appear to be food.

Here is Pam at TEDxSalon in May 2012 (13 mins):

Leadership Skills

Warhurst’s group initiated the growing of food on unused public land. They started with a seed swap, and then turned a verge into a herb garden. Now food is being grown in a wide range of places, including in the railway station car park and in front of the police station. To accommodate the tourists the group’s work attracted, they established the Incredible Edible Green Route, a walking tour of these and other sites, which takes people through the town and past local businesses.

They started with a small, practical action, created a visible success, then attracted other people into their conversation, their story.

People are ready and respond to the story of food. They want positive actions they can engage in, and in their bones, they know it’s time to take personal responsibility and invest in more kindness to each other and to the environment.

They’ve since established a partnership with a high school, with whom they are designing and building an aquaponics system. The high school is now teaching agriculture as a result of the community wanting to work with the students. They’ve turned some donated land into a market garden training center, and as a result, local academics offered to design a commercial horticulture course.

Warhurst acknowledges that what her group is doing is not original or clever – however it is joined up, and it is inclusive. Their motto is: ‘If you eat, you’re in!’. She understands that an holistic approach for change is necessary – for example, if you can get people interested in local food because they can see what’s growing all around them, then you have a better chance of them spending their money to support local producers.

To engage local farmers and producers, her group established the ‘Every Egg Matters’ campaign, where the availability of surplus eggs has been plotted on the Egg Map. There are now 64 local egg sellers on the map. Imagine doing this with everything that people produce in backyards! People began asking for ‘Todmorden eggs’ in the shops ie. looking for locally produced product. A survey conducted by local students revealed that half of all food traders in the town said they had experienced an increase in their bottom line as a result of Incredible Edible’s efforts.

Further, its not just about people who are growing food:

…we all are part of this jigsaw. It’s about taking those artistic people in your community and doing some fabulous designs in those raised beds to explain to people what’s growing there, because there’s so many people that don’t really recognize a vegetable unless it’s in a bit of plastic with a bit of an instruction packet on the top.

A number of projects have spun out of Incredible Edible, including a commitment from the local authority to make everywhere ‘incredible edible’, starting with creating an asset register of spare land that communities can use to grow food. The group is calling for planning authorities to bring food growing sites into the heart of towns and cities, not relegate them to peri-urban areas where few people encounter them.

More than 30 towns in the UK have adopted the Incredible Edible model, along with communities from the US to Japan to New Zealand, where citizens of Christchurch visited Todmorden with a view to incorporating these ideas in the post-earthquake rebuilding of their city.

Personal Attributes

Warhurst has a sense of dogged determination about her, and is no-nonsense  in her approach, with a very English sensibility of just getting on with it:

We’re starting to reinvent community ourselves, and we’ve done it all without a flipping strategy document…

We’ve not asked anybody’s permission to do this, we’re just doing it. We came up with a really simple game plan that we put to a public meeting. We did not consult. We did not write a report. Enough of all that.

This will resonate with anyone who has ever been hamstrung by risk-averse or officious authorities, or become frustrated with groups where the need to create some universally-agreed to master plan with every last detail planned out (but that all parties can never quite agree to) stymies action.

The can-do approach Warhust embodies has resulted in a remarkable list of achievements in a short time, especially, as Warhust pointedly said:

And we’re just volunteers and it’s only an experiment.

In showing how her group of volunteers brought about change, particularly with limited resources, it gives people a real sense of hope and possibility that they too could do the same.

Presentation Skills

Warhurst’s delivery is matter-of-fact, yet witty, and her presentation is rich with images of the people and places associated with Incredible Edible.

She tickles the crowd by referring to the group’s work as ‘Propaganda Gardening’ and noting that they’ve invented a new form of tourism – ‘Vegetable Tourism’. Creating vivid phrases for concepts like these are effective ways to marshall and promote ideas, and enthuse others about becoming involved. The idea of ‘planting verges’ may interest a few folks, but framing it as ‘Propaganda Gardening’ both connects it to a bigger idea and makes it sound more appealing.

All through her talk, Warhurst conveys a feeling that all of this has happened not because it is a kind of  miracle, but because doing it was just plain common sense, and that everything that has been done is perfectly normal, including growing food in the town’s cemetery where, she informs an amused audience, ‘the soil is extremely good!’.

The Green Bronx Machine – A Teacher Growing Green in the South Bronx

Steven Ritz teaches at-risk kids in the South Bronx, where the unemployment rate is 25%, poverty is at 40% and the median income is $20k a year. Most of his students are homeless, and many are in foster care.

Steven Ritz and some of his students at work in Harlem, NYC

Image credit: Green Bronx Machine

Now that’s a challenge for a changemaker. How has he turned those starting conditions into this?

Ritz believes that students shouldn’t have to leave their community to live, learn and earn in a better one. Moving generations of students into spheres of personal and academic successes they have never imagined while reclaiming and rebuilding the Bronx, Stephen’s extended student and community family have grown over 25,000 pounds of vegetables in the Bronx while generating extraordinary academic performance. His Bronx classroom features the first indoor edible wall in NYC DOE which routinely generates enough produce to feed 450 students healthy meals and trains the youngest nationally certified workforce in America. His students, traveling from Boston to Rockefeller Center to the Hamptons, earn living wage en route to graduation.

Here is Steven Ritz at TEDx Manhattan in February 2012 (13 mins):

Leadership Skills

Ritz has formed a community around the gardens students are designing and the food they are growing, which provides them with food, skills and jobs. He’s found a way to help the students meet pressing personal needs, and contribute to something bigger than themselves, both of which foster self-esteem.

He’s created a highly visible example of something that works, and can demonstrate success, which has attracted the attention and support of media, foodies and politicians.

Ritz understands that he is merely the enabler, the ‘conductor’ of an orchestra (*meaning himself):

…when you put big kids together with little kids, you get the big fat white guy* out of the middle, which is cool, and you create this kind of accountability amongst peers, which is incredible.

He’s constantly searching for new ways to build on the existing body of work. He celebrates achievements and ensures his students get that positive feedback.

And where it counts? The results of how Ritz has helped students change their lives speak for themselves:

Forty percent attendance to 93 percent attendance. All start overage and under-credit…my first cohort is all in college, earning a living wage. The rest are scheduled to graduate this June.

It’s not just about the gardening and food growing – it’s about raising expectations and expanding horizons.

Personal Attributes

On a personal level, Ritz is an absolute dynamo. His enthusiasm and confidence is contagious, his energy leaps off the stage and out of the screen – as he himself exclaimed ‘I’m the oldest sixth grader you’ll ever meet!’

He delights the crowd with his self-deprecating wit and uses comedy to get people to laugh with him. He tells his stories in a way that makes the apparently unlikely seem perfectly normal:

…I met nice people like you, and they invited us to the Hamptons. So I call this ‘from South Bronx to Southampton’. And we started putting in roofs that look like this, and we came in from destitute neighborhoods to start building landscapes like this, wow! People noticed. And so we got invited back this past summer, and we actually moved into the Hamptons, paid 3,500 dollars a week for a house, and we learned how to surf.

Part radio DJ with his rapid-fire delivery, part Baptist preacher as he responds to the reactions of his audience in the moment, Ritz explodes preconceptions of what life options are available to poor and often homeless kids. He is deeply emotionally invested in what he is doing, and one gets the impression he would not give up easily or take ‘no’ for an answer.

Presentation Skills

Ritz delivers not so much a presentation as a performance.

As a speaker, he moves along at a rapid pace, and can do so because he knows his content inside out. And because he’s telling a story, not delivering information, because he’s using images (not bullet points) to illustrate his talk, the audience can keep up.

He uses rich metaphors, such as when he explains how the green wall in his classroom is there to be grazed: ‘if you’re hungry, get up and eat – my kids play cow all the time’.

He uses repetition of certain phrases, such as ’I am not a farmer. I’m a teacher,’ and  ’the glory and bounty that is Bronx County’ (the latter is also a rhyme, a mantra even).

He uses vivid language to highlight the stark difference between what is, and what would have been, if it wasn’t for these initiatives:

The borough that gave us baggy pants and funky fresh beats is becoming home to the organic ones.

Brook Park feeds hundreds of people without a food stamp or a fingerprint.

Nothing thrills me more than to see kids pollinating plants instead of each other.

Thank God Omar knows that carrots come from the ground, and not aisle 9 at the supermarket or through a bullet-proof window or through a piece of styrofoam.

How could you not warm to a character like Steven Ritz and want to get involved in whatever he is doing?

Although from very different communities, Pam Warhurst and Steven Ritz are both leaders who ignite in people a passion and belief that they can change their world and themselves, and they tell their stories as empathic and inspiring communicators.

Have you worked with a great change-maker? What personal attributes and leadership skills did they have that made them effective?

Can you identify people around you who are creating change through practical action? How can you help support their efforts?

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Surviving Personal Attacks – A Guide for Change Agents

Bugs and Daffy from 'Rabbit Season/Duck Season' skit, with sign on tree altered to read 'Messenger Season'

Image credit: Up The Hammers/Warner Bros

By definition, change agents are ‘the messenger’ – and one thing change agents can be certain of is that as messengers, shots will be fired at them.

‘Shooting the messenger’ is considered a subdivision of an ad hominem attack, which is:

…insulting or belittling one’s opponent in order to attack his claim or invalidate his argument, but can also involve pointing out true character flaws or actions that are irrelevant to the opponent’s argument. This is logically fallacious because it relates to the opponent’s personal character, which has nothing to do with the logical merit of the opponent’s argument.

A lay term for ‘ad hominem‘ is ‘playing the man and not the ball’, an expression from various codes of football, where a player targets the body of the player with no intention of attempting to tackle to take possession of the ball.

It’s against the rules because players are supposed to be focused on the ball (the issue or debate in question), not taking out an opposing player (engaging in character assassination or ridicule intended to undermine an opponent’s position).

How should a change agent manage their response to messenger-shooting and/or an ad hominem attack?

Firstly, be aware of the nature of the response you receive. Even if you have become the target of hostility, be aware that it is your message, not you personally, that the person or group is reacting to. When people attack the person delivering the message instead of debating the issue raised by their message, they are reacting to someone placing them in a state of cognitive dissonance - or where their view of the world is suddenly interrupted and made uncomfortable by new information or ideas that conflicts with their established understanding and belief system. The reaction is because your message has clashed with an individual or group’s ‘belief grid’, or challenged values they hold dear.

Secondly, manage your own response. Like most human beings, your initial reaction to hostility is unlikely to be rational, as such an attack triggers ‘survival’ mode, bypassing the conscious mind and going straight to the ‘older’ parts of the brain. Physical reactions may include a racing heart, a surge of adrenaline, a flushed face, perhaps even shaking hands or voice. You may feel your temper rising, the need to defend yourself and your argument, or the overwhelming desire to sting the person who has stung you (how dare they!).

STOP.

First, make sure you listen to what the other person is saying – really listen, as the words they are speaking might not be exactly what they are reacting against, there may be a deeper issue. Reflect back to the person what you have heard for two reasons – to make sure you’ve understood them, and so that they know they have been heard, and that you’ve not been preparing a counter-argument while they’ve been speaking.

Often, a few moments of silence can work wonders to cool an inflamed situation. Pause before answering. Take a slow, deep breath.

Visualise a white light around yourself – allow yourself to be present, and respond, but without internalising hostile energy.

Ask strategic questions. Create effective conversations by being curious without being judgmental. Practice empathy.

small vial with a green potion labelled 'empathy'

Bottle label reads: ‘Empathy is the ability of blurring the line between self and other’

Image credit: Viralmente

Most of all, realise and accept that your role is to take the heat for being the bearer of change. It’s hard – hard when people arc up, hard when they’re attacking positions you yourself hold to be true, very hard when you’re being attacked personally and/or dismissively ‘shot down’, especially when someone has misinterpreted something you said. The most unbelievably frustrating scenario is when people are attacking something you didn’t even say!

Remember – amazing leaders would be found everywhere if it was easy!

Helpful resources Crux has discovered and recommends include:

Leadership on the Line: Staying Alive Through The Dangers of Leading by Harvard University’s Ronald A Heifetz and Marty Linsky includes guidance on ‘Anchoring Yourself’, ‘Holding Steady’/'Taking the Heat’ and ‘Controlling the Temperature’; some excerpts below:

When you take ‘personal’ attacks personally, you unwittingly conspire in one of the common ways you can be taken out of action – you make yourself the issue.

Adaptive work generates ‘heat’ and resistance, which present forms of danger to leaders…Learning to take the heat and receive people’s anger in a way that does not undermine your initiative is one of the toughest tasks of leadership.

Leadership takes the capacity to stomach hostility so that you can stay connected to people…Receiving anger is a sacred task, because it tests us in our most sensitive places. It demands that we remain true to a purpose beyond ourselves, and stand by people compassionately, even when they unleash demons. Taking the heat with grace communicates respect for the pains of change.

It’s a deep and natural human impulse to seek order and calm, and organizations and communities can only tolerate so much distress before recoiling. Raise the heat enough to that people sit up, pay attention and deal with threats/challenges – no distress means no incentive for change. But lower the temperature when necessary to reduce counterproductive tension.

The book also makes the point that you may also be facing resistance from friends and allies, as well as those opposing you – people who want you to calm things down, not stir them up, because the upheaval has become uncomfortable for them. It also provides useful insights into other tactics often used to neutralise or marginalise those undertaking change work.

A New Earth, by Eckhart Tolle – Tolle experienced a profound transformation aged 29 when he was on the verge of suicide, and heard himself saying ‘I can no longer live with myself’. This very statement enabled him to wonder ‘who is this self I cannot live with?’ and to begin to separate his egoic self from his true being. A New Earth examines the current collective and individual egoic state of humanity, and how a shift in consciousness is the evolutionary leap we need to make to survive. Here are some selected quotes from Tolle’s chapters on ego, which are highly relevant for the change agent:

Most people are so completely identified with the voice in the head – the incessant stream of involuntary and compulsive thinking and the emotions that accompany it – that we may describe them as being possessed by their mind. As long as you are completely unaware of this, you take the thinker to be who you are. This is the egoic mind…

The ego isn’t wrong; its just unconscious. When you observe the ego in yourself, you are beginning to go beyond it. Don’t take the ego too seriously. When you detect egoic behavior in yourself, smile…

Nonreaction to the ego in others is one of the most effective ways…of going beyond ego in yourself…but you can only be in a state of nonreaction if you can recognize someone’s behavior as coming from the ego…when you realize its not personal, there is no longer a compulsion to react as if it were…somebody becomes an enemy if you personalize the unconsciousness that is the ego. Non reaction is not weakness but strength…

All that is require to become free of the ego is to be aware of it, since awareness and ego are incompatible. Awareness is the power that is concealed within the present moment. This is why we may also call it Presence.

Please note, this is very much about the role of your own ego in any kind of exchange, as well as that of anyone you are engaging with. In the moment you become the target of an attack, the kind of reaction you may begin to feel manifesting is the ego in ‘damage repair mode’ – Tolle uses the example of road rage, the abuse of other drivers with language and gesture. By definition, the attacks cannot be personal, as you do not know the others involved, but if you are on the receiving end of aggression, you are likely to have an emotional/instinctual reaction before your rational brain has even engaged.

Becoming aware of your reaction – ‘oh, it’s just the ego, going into damage repair mode’ – and being aware that ‘you’ are not your ego, can help you take a step back at a critical time and enable you to offer a considered, compassionate response instead of a kneejerk reaction.

The Lotus Leadership Guide provides a succinct summary of nine essential leadership capacities. They are all important, but perhaps the most critical ones for when the heat is on are:

Being Present means being fully aware and awake in the present moment – physically, mentally, emotionally and spiritually. This includes connecting to others, the environment around you and current reality.

Suspension and Letting Go is the ability to actively experience and observe a thought, assumption, judgment, habitual pattern, emotion or sensation like fear, confusion, conflict or desire, and then refraining from immediately reacting or responding to the situation.

Compassion is having unconditional acceptance and kindness toward all the dimensions of oneself and others, regardless of circumstance. Compassion involves the ability to reflect upon oneself and others without judgment, but with recognition and trust that others are doing the best they can in any given situation.

If you have practiced yoga, or if you meditate, you might already be aware of ‘becoming the witness’ – consciously becoming a detached observer of your own thoughts, letting them come, noticing them, letting them go, without judgment or attachment. It is this technique that both Tolle and the Lotus guide are referring to when separating from one’s ego (being aware of one’s own thoughts), and practicing suspension and letting go.

Leadership and change involves being prepared to take some heat. While nothing replaces the baptism of fire of a real situation, investing some effort into creating an ‘emotional hazmat suit’ is well worth the time and an effective way of developing your leadership skills.

And with practice, you won’t merely survive ad hominem attacks, you’ll be able to turn a conversation around from what could have been a potentially destructive situation, and instead create a positive, empowering space for everyone involved.

Have you ever been attacked personally and publicly for breaching a taboo, or saying something that went against what appeared to be the general consensus of a group? How did it feel? How did you handle it?

What tactics have you developed to allow yourself to speak out, without internalising or reacting to others’ anger, frustration or fear? 

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